|Re:Cohousing changing over time||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Rob Sandelin (robsanmicrosoft.com)|
|Date: Wed, 25 May 94 17:44 CDT|
I changed the title of this thread because it seems to be different than the original starting point and this will help out the gopher folks maybe? Anyway Robyn made the point about the tradition of the house setting up expectations of who lived there. I think it also works the other way, where people who have certain community expectations search out places which fit those expectations the best. Cohousing right now has certain expectations attached to it in terms of cooperative living. It also has certain requirements, which are really stiff - e.g., having to commit enormous energy to develop real estate. When the requirements change, when all you have to do to live in cohousing is buy a home in any number of cohousing developments, I believe the cooperative expectations will remain as part of the core definition of cohousing. The energy people put into cooperative efforts is one way of defining the level of community any given cohousing development will have and over time the energy requirements for living in cohousing may actually be quite small. Those of us who have lived through the development process know that once you move in and live together for a year or so you don't need weekly meetings anymore. The question is, will people who never went through that baptism of the development process, really commit energy into the community, or will they just find it a convienent place to live? I see in my own cohousing group a real identity crisis at times. Are we "a community" or are we a bunch of neighbors who work cooperatively together? If we are a community, then we should be working on some sort of goals for maximizing and deepening our relationships. If we are not, then the only level of relationship we need to have is what is required to work together and solve our conflicts. I see this sort of identity crisis in other groups also. How much do we share with each other? How much do we support and rely on each other? These are questions which define the depth of the community. When new members buy in who have different answers to those sorts of questions it can change the direction and level of community within the group. However, the foundation of cooperative living should hopefully be laid well enough so that it stands the test of time. Rob Sandelin Sharingwood
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