|Re: Sweat equity: Trust and Community||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Judy (BAXTER%EPIHUBVX.CIS.UMN.EDU)|
|Date: Fri, 12 Aug 94 11:17 CDT|
Rob Sandelin Wrote: <<A friend of mine, John Affolter, who has lived in and actively promoted intentional community for longer than I have been alive told me once that the measure of "community" within any living situation is how much the people involved can trust each other, and the level of personal sacrifice they are willing to make for the common good. One of the main thing I see people looking into cohousing are seeking is community>> ..<<<It seems to me that trust is a key to community. Willingness to give to the community of yourself and your things is another. Open honest communication and a willingness to learn and change make up other key ingredients of the bread called community.>> <<Applying all this to sweat equity, it would seem to me that if you are spending a lot of time creating and inventing "systems" for tracking and accountability of people, then perhaps your time might be better spent working on building community instead.>> ..<<Of course maybe cohousing really isn't community, its just a "more practical and convenient living arrangement". And if that quote, which comes from some of the leadership of the cohousing movement, describes your goals as a cohousing group, I wish you the best of luck getting people to commit to anything. It would probably be better just to hire help and assess the costs to everyone.>> Rob, I agree with most of what you say. AND, I think it is important to remember that there a levels and degrees of "community"-ness. I think people come to co-housing looking for different degrees of community, privacy, sharing, etc. And they change once they get there - sometimes in unexpected ways. And they have different levels of commitments and constraints placed on their time by other things in their lives. I have been very interested in Scott Peck's stuff on Community (someone posted a summary of "A Different Drum" on this list, quite a while ago). But I am bothered by the sense that he gives that the kind of communities he describes are the only "true" communities. I think and want cohousing to be more than just a more practical and convenient living arrangement, much more, but I suspect some of that definition is an attempt to avoid scaring off people by talking of things individualistic Americans are afraid of (sharing, trust, sacrifice!!). And I haven't got time to get into more theoretical stuff. Judy Baxter, Monterey Cohousing Community, (MoCoCo) Twin Cities Area, Minneapolis/St.Paul Minnesota e-mail: baxter [at] epivax.epi.umn.edu
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