|Re: Security at cohousing||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Rob Sandelin (robsanmicrosoft.com)|
|Date: Fri, 13 Jan 95 11:19 CST|
Martin wrote: >Too bad we live in a fearful, litigious society. Even cohousing groups >seem fearful of strangers in their "village". This is progress? I agree it is too bad, but in my view of American Society, it is seriously in trouble, violent crazy people have few restrictions on terrorizing people, and random acts of violence seem to be escalating exponentially. Two kids got shot at school yesterday in Seattle. At school! Ten years ago this was unheard of. Ten years from now will it be so common that we are desensitized to it? I will freely admit I am very afraid of violence to my family, especially my daughters, and that is one of many reasons I live where I do. I am not comfortable with strangers in my community and my neighbors are not either. (although there are new members since we last talked about this so it may not be totally a community wide thing). Two summers ago there was a stranger walking around our community who was described as having a very, dark intense look (I can't explain it any better than that but three other members, all who were women, called him "creepy looking"). When he was approached by a community member he responded in a way that was suspicious to the member and he (the stranger) immediately left. He was seen a couple days later in his car parked outside the community. He was waved at, and he drove off fast, squealing his tires. I was not part of any of this, just heard about it. It was agreed by those at dinner that night that this was odd enough to get his license number and report it to the Sheriffs Dept. He has not been seen since. Now, maybe this is an example of two different things. Maybe, since his appearance was a little scary he was approached in such a way that made him feel unwelcome and made an excuse and left. Or maybe he was up to some unwelcome purpose of his own, caught out and left. I will never know. I am glad he was approached, in that I was out of town on vacation and hearing about "creepy looking" strangers standing in front of my house when I am gone makes me uncomfortable. Many months ago I had some guests over for an evening. A van which I didn't recognize drove up, and backed into one of my neighbors parking areas next to their house. I knew my neighbors were gone for the weekend so I excused myself from my guests, and walked over to see what was going on. As I was approaching Bob's house from one side, another neighbor, who had seen the same thing, was approaching from the other. It turned out the van was delivering something from church to Bob's garage. I bring up these two examples to give the viewpoint that when neighbors know each other well, know each others lives, and care about each other, strangers are going to get noticed and talked to. Not because I have any particular fear of any particular stranger but because I care about my neighbors and I want to look out after them. I would also point out that, in my opinion, this is the highest and best form of personal security. Given the state of American Society, I personally view this as progress. If every place in America had the same sense of ownership, contact with the neighbors, and caring about each other that exists in cohousing groups, it would make it almost impossible for much of the criminal activity which thrives in anonymity to occur. Rob Sandelin Puget Sound Cohousing Network Building a better society, one neighborhood at a time
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