|Cohousing Privacy vs. Openness||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Don Maddox (donmcrl.com)|
|Date: Fri, 13 Jan 95 13:51 CST|
I've read the various posts having to do with cohousing site privacy and what proper etiquette is for visitors. | I'm not yet in a cohousing site but am active with a cohousing group in Santa Rosa, Ca. At this time we call ourselves Acacia Lane Cohousing since we are negotiating the purchase of land on Acacia Lane. The previous posts have gotten me thinking about privacy and visitor control will be an issue in my mind when we get around to planning our site layout. Hopefully we can design the entrances to our property to subtly state that this is a private area and that those entering don't have complete access rights. I believe this is necessary to provide a safe feeling environment for our community members, especially for the children. Having said that I have reservations about getting too protective of our site property. I wouldn't want to give the impression to our neighbors and the general populous outside our cohousing community that we think of ourselves as an exclusive society separate from them. I'm really concerned about where this country is going and the many problems that we face. I'm a firm believer that one of the major causes of crime and alienation between different segments of our population has to do with the lack of community in our society. The concept that has been promoted over the years of the nuclear family dwelling with a large fence separating you from your neighbors promotes isolation between us as a society. The fact that we have gotten away from the small town concept with a central common area for shopping and visiting with other town members I think promotes separateness and promotes alienation between us. Maybe I'm being a bit idealistic but I feel that in promoting cohousing we are providing an answer to some of the problems our society faces. I don't want to just expand my present isolation from society by swapping my single family home with fence to 26 family homes with fence. I'd be interested in hearing from others already in cohousing about how we might lay our site out to give us some control over who enters our grounds without creating a barrier from our neighbors and promoting separateness from them. For example, I like the idea that Rob mentioned that they use at Sharingwood of a bulletin board at the entrance with instructions on how to set up tours. I've heard of a cohousing site that has a basketball court that the public can use without asking which I think gives an open friendly message to neighbors. If this kind of thing can be done without compromising the privacy of the living areas and cohousing site common areas it sounds like a great idea to me. Privacy and security vs. openness to the general community seems to be a delicate issue that needs to be well thought out. Any other suggestions you can give that haven't already been stated in our present discussion would be appreciated. ..Don Acacia Lane Cohousing Santa Rosa, Ca
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