|Re: Privacy and Openess||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Judy (BAXTER%EPIHUBVX.CIS.UMN.EDU)|
|Date: Fri, 13 Jan 95 14:08 CST|
This whole discussion about gawkers, visitors, marking boundaries, etc has reminded me of something I heard way back (about 4 1/2 years ago) when Cohousing was just getting active in the Twin Cities. Bodil Vaupel, a Danish architect living in the Twin Cities (for quite a few years, by then) told us *her* perceptions of the differences between the Danes and Americans. She said the Danes are much more gregarious, live much closer together in general, and much less private. They consider it normal to wander into their friends houses when said friends are not home! and really make themselves at home. I can't remember details, but I think she said that after living in U.S. and going home for summer vacations, it drove her crazy the way people cut across her front lawn, etc. I'm sure at least her husband is on e-mail -- Jim Vaupel is a demographer/statistician type. If anyone can find his address, it would be neat to contact her/them and see what they are doing. She was very interested in cohousing, but somewhat impatient about meetings - I think she only came to 2 or 3, and soon after, they decided they were moving. Anyway, my point is that we are different from Danes and will have to work our our own boundaries. In my case, we live right next door to a group of large condos, and have very little contact, with a few exceptions, tho we have tried. On the other side is the back side of an apartment complex, and I've never seen any of them execpt cars going into their driveway. We are essentially at the end of a private drive, and certainly, people we don't know get asked if we can help them, but my sense is that so far, we do not see it as a problem. But we are only 8 households so far, and few kids. So far, little media exposure - tho the story on us from 1 local channel got played as one of the stories of the year at New Years. I'm not looking forward to more. Judy Baxter, Monterey Cohousing Community, (MoCoCo) Twin Cities Area, Minneapolis/St.Paul Minnesota e-mail: baxter [at] epivax.epi.umn.edu
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