Relationships and community (was Lot Development Model) | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Stuart Staniford-Chen (staniforcs.ucdavis.edu) | |
Date: Wed, 12 Apr 95 19:24 CDT |
Martin brings up a fascinating tangent I can't resist following: > I see a good marriage as a community of two. A couple who have a "rock > solid relationship are well-positioned for the group process needed for > community, don't you think? It certainly is not a requirement. One of the wonderful things I think community can do is to stabilize relationships which aren't quite working out, or control damage in ones which have fallen apart altogether. One of the things N St, and other communities, are seeing is break-ups in which both partners are able to continue to live in the community (though not together). Intuitively, it seems to me that this has got to be much better for both the former partners and the kids (especially the latter). I'm not even sure it helps all that much. "A community of two" is so small that lots of things can be dealt with informally. Agendas, facilitation, meeting minutes, scheduled workdays are not part of the trappings of most relationships! (Except perhaps when they are in trouble - and therefore no longer "rock-solid") And partners in strong relationships often have so many shared values that it is no preparation for coping with the diversity of views at a typical community meeting. But maybe a rock-solid relationship is some preparation for living in community - anyone have good arguments for this? Stuart. --------------------------------------------------------------------- Stuart Staniford-Chen | Dept of Computer Science stanifor [at] cs.ucdavis.edu | UC Davis, Davis, CA 95616 (916) 752-2149 - work | and (916) 756-8697 - home | N St. Cohousing Community Cohousing pages are http://everest.cs.ucdavis.edu/~stanifor/cohousing.html
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Relationships and community (was Lot Development Model) Stuart Staniford-Chen, April 12 1995
- RE: Relationships and community (was Lot Development Model) Rob Sandelin, April 13 1995
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