|Re: Dysfunctional||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Monty Berman (mbermanmailbox.syr.edu)|
|Date: Mon, 23 Oct 1995 11:10:57 -0500|
Mark, I recall the reference to "stuff" as (paraphrase): "I want to (only?) be in a community where members work on their stuff." I am with you in repelling any attempts of individuals acting out their stuff on others, but I see this as different from "WORKing on one's stuff," which would entail self-awareness, discipline, and commitment---and is more about intrapersonal activity than interpersonal. I tend to think that without a number of individuals doing this, a community will not survive with any depth to it. Monty Berman EcoVillage at Ithaca On Fri, 20 Oct 1995, Mark Frauenglass wrote: > > >Sage McKenzie > said > >2. if community is created without people dealing with their 'stuff' the > >dysfunctional family is recreated. > > > >I have not ruled coho out completely and will continue to read your > >experiences with interest. > > I'm sorry you got turned off. > I don't like power playing either. > > I mentioned the community not being a therapy session for peoples 'stuff', > along with posting about some handicaps being a burden. Every one has > troubles and needs the support of their village, and helping out can feel > quite good. The line gets crossed for me when a person doing their 'stuff' > puts down, yells at and belittles someone in a business meeting. I wouldn't > do that to my kids ever especially in front of others. > > So what do you do? Good neighbors can talk to their neighbors. Living in > coho has that feeling of commitment. Like a family or a marriage. I'm in > it for the long run, so I can tell my neighbors to their face I think this > isn't cool. I don't see cohousing as a cure. > > Mark Frauenglass > He ain't heavy, he's my brother ... > I just live next door, I'm not your shrink. > >
Re: Dysfunctional Mark Frauenglass, October 20 1995
- Re: Dysfunctional Monty Berman, October 23 1995
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