|Re: Kids in cohousing||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: gpye (gpyeunity.ncsu.edu)|
|Date: Thu, 4 Jan 1996 15:47:50 -0600|
Greetings! I'm a lurker here in Durham/Chapel Hill, NC and I'm writing because Greg Bamford's message stirred up some memories for me that relate to this discussion of kids in cohousing: I spent my first 7 years in a trailer park in Charlotte. It was not an intentional community, and I don't remember whether it was particularly transient or not. What I do remember is that there were no "yards", no specific borders where you "couldn't" go. There was virtually no traffic on the trailer park circle, so we played games and went back and forth between each other's houses with ease and without a great deal of supervision. I absolutely loved it, and didn't realize that the whole world wasn't like that. At age 7, we moved to a "neighborhood" with streets with cars and backyards with fences and I remember feeling major culture shock (though I'm sure I couldn't articulate what was going on at the time). Suddenly, I had to be "invited" before I could go into someone else's yard. Things were much more formal and where I'd easily made friends with all ages before, here kids seemed to have "groups" to which you had to earn membership. You get the idea. It was a tough transition. In other words, I think the informality and having a safe place to play and everybody knowing everybody were incredibly valuable and it's worth it to me to spend the effort in developing our own cohousing group because I feel like it's possible to get that as an adult (and for my kids as well). Note: I do have a lot of this informality and caring with my friends (both coho and non-coho), but the geographic distances keep us from interacting as easily as if we had cohousing. BTW, I love the Cohousing Stories we've been hearing lately. They are very inspirational. Thanks! Would love to hear more! Ginger W. Long Mimosa Grove Cohousing (MoGo CoHo), Chapel Hill/Durham, NC gpye_Long [at] ncsu.edu "No matter where you go, there you are." --Buckaroo Banzai
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