|RE: Re: Your bank loan||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Rob Sandelin (Exchange) (RobsanExchange.MICROSOFT.com)|
|Date: Tue, 3 Sep 1996 11:07:59 -0500|
Wilie, from Gray Rock commons wrote: Another downside to consider is some loss of momentum in community development as people move in over a long period of time rather than all at once. I'm not sure if that is happening at Greyrock since I have nothing to compare it to. This can actually be something of a blessing. It lets you adjust bit by bit and get to know each other better than if you all get dumped into the "pot" at once. You will find that the level you knew people at while all the planning, etc was going on is a tiny tiny fraction of who your neighbors really are, and now that you live together you will find lots and lots of new things about each other. Some good, some not so good. Having time to create, adjust, and understand the boundaries you will need to set coming from living together is a blessing. It will be much more humane to do this in small bites I think. I would encourage you to do some delebrate celebratory activities to create patterns. For example, If you haven't already done a community dinner yet, pay attention to the noise level and the kids activity level. These are crucial things that will drive people away from community dinner participation so be conscious of them. Also create patterns of use for the commonhouse. For example, encourage people to hang out on Friday nights by having people bring board games, cards, etc. and get into the pattern of using that space for regularily scheduled social times. If you have musicians, encourage them to do a coffeehouse. Find a parent, or kid friendly adult and organize a kids play or other activity in the commonhouse. If you set social patterns early, it becomes natural and part of your cohousing lifestyle. Much much harder to create this later, if the pattern of staying home, maybe eating dinner once or twice develops. You have this great window of opportunity to create a really vibrant and alive social community. Don't let it slip away. Rob Sandelin Sharingwood Northwest Intentional Communities Association
- RE: Your bank loan, (continued)
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