|re: Kids and work||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Albert Harum-Alvarez (AlbertSmallCo.Miami.FL.us)|
|Date: Fri, 13 Dec 1996 15:43:05 -0600|
A resent message, first sent when the list was down: =AD-------------------------------------------------------- Subject: re: Kids and work Sent: 12/5/96 10:18 PM To: cohousing-l [at] freedom.mtn.org Rob wrote: >I think community comes when you stop worrying about that stuff and just >appreciate what gets done and celebrate what gets accomplished, not who = does >it. Over my time on this list, mostly reading, I've learned a lot about = cohousing from Rob and others. But I'm still not sure how it is with = kids and responsibility in cohousing communities. I guess I could try = to visit more sites, but I'd like to know with a little less work on = my part. :-} Isn't that what this list is for? I am hearing some folks, like Rob, speak about the ideal of = cohousing: no required duties, but everything gets done. This sounds = like a true family, and it's wonderful. But I'm also hearing in some = posts, for instance, one from King Collins, that things aren't quite = like that, at least where they live. I know that many groups are trying to attract families with kids like = mine. I know that for my wife and myself this issue of kids' = responsibilities re the community is very important. If this is a = problem in cohousing, could it be a small part of the reason (besides = economics, etc.) that some communities have had a hard time = attracting families with kids? Another question, which I had asked on the list awhile back but not = received an answer to: Do many cohousing communities have extended families in them? This = seems like such a natural, seeing as how the ideal of cohousing is = very similar to the idea of a large family. Or ar people attracted to cohousing because their own families have = failed to provide the sense of community they seek. Is cohousing then = a (brave and courageous) attempt to reinvent the family from the = ashes of dysfunction? (sorry for the bad poetry, there! I was trying = to riff off of King's comments :-P And is this also why it's hard to attract minorities (besides = economics, once again!)? Because Latins and blacks are more likely to = have fully functioning extended families, and so don't need to (or = want to) attend meetings for years in order to recreate them? Please understand the context of these questions. I think, from the = little I really know about it, that cohousing is an incredible and = very important movement, and I am in awe of the sheer effort many of = you have expended to make it happen. I admire you all! Albert
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