|RE: Renters||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Rob Sandelin (Floriferousclassic.msn.com)|
|Date: Mon, 9 Feb 1998 22:11:20 -0600|
Elanor Asked: What would you do about a household where one partner is very keen and has agreed to be on committees, attend meetings, etc, but the other partner isn't willing to do any of that? My advice is to live with it and accept it. It seems to be somewhat common for varying levels of socialiability with spouses. In fact, in seems to be almost a pattern. The most social person may be married to someone much less social, and so the social parner may get their social outlets from the community. This can be a good thing for a couple. Meetings are only one facet of life in community and their are many others. (Trust me on this if you are not yet living together, there is more to cohousing than meetings) For instance, a very unsocial man in our community (now moved on) would rarely ever attend meetings, but was always interested in lending a tool, a helping hand, and teaching kids soccer. Get him in a group of more than five and he would clam up pretty quick, but in one on one, and particularily in poker games with the guys, he was very social. Another person in our community would never have much to say around men, but in groups of women she was the life of the party. People are all very different in their social tolerances, and although people do learn new things and become different over time, it can be a slow process. Don't get hung up on meeting participation by individuals. The person who abhors large groups may be the perfect person to teach your children how to read. Rob Sandelin Sharingwood, where today was a glorious sunfull 50 degree day with birds singing like it's spring. Ta Da!
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