|concerns about cohousing||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Tonka444 (Tonka444aol.com)|
|Date: Sun, 22 Mar 1998 09:56:52 -0600|
My wife has been a cohousing enthusiast for a couple of years now. I am on the fence and would appreciate some candid input that might help alleviate (or confirm) my concerns. Here they are: 1. Lack of privacy. I'm not antisocial but I like to socialize on my own terms, when and as often (or little) as I want. The phrase"intentional community" sounds ominous to me -- a little like "imposed community." I'm not wild about the idea of communal meals (although a couple a week would be ok). I value freedom, self-reliance, and frequent solitude as a means of spiritual renewal. I don't want to be cheek to jowl with my neighbors, even neighbors that I like. 2. Meetings. Don't like 'em at work, and there's no reason to think I'd like them any better at my "home." The cohousing community that we're looking has the raw land but there' s a lot of planning to be done to make the project come to fruition. That means lots of weekend meetings. With the demands of family and work, the tiny islands of free time available on the weekend are a welcome sanctuary. I'd hate to lose any of them. 3. Lack of space (see privacy above). We don't need 3,500 square feet but 1400 sf (the average sized unit for the development being contemplated) is smallish. Yes, I know, you don't need as much private space with the communal space available, but still. . . .We're a family of four, five on the weekends, and we need room to breathe. There are other , more personal concerns (e.g. length of commute) but those are the primary ones. I take it they're not unique. I'd appreciate your CANDID input because this is a major life change and I want to make sure we're doing it with open eyes.
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