|Re: concerns about cohousing||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Jennifer McCoy (jmccoygsu.edu)|
|Date: Mon, 23 Mar 1998 16:08:52 -0600|
Tonka004 wrote: > > My wife has been a cohousing enthusiast for a couple of years now. I am on > the fence and would appreciate some candid input that might help alleviate (or > confirm) my concerns. My husband and I had similar concerns before we joined our cohousing community two years ago (with move-in 9 months ago). We were downsizing and are two busy professionals with little time for more meetings. Yet we wanted playmates and an extended family for our son, and neighbors that we would actually interact with, in contrast to our previous neighborhood. So we took the plunge. We've found that privacy is not a problem at all, even in our very compact urban cohousing site. In fact, the opposite -- our group has lamented that we don't have enough time to see each other as much as we'd like! Members of the group ebb and flow in their participation levels, depending on their personal situations and life stresses. We solved the space issue by putting some things in storage, giving others things to the common house or neighbors, and using our space very efficiently (it's amazing what the Container Store can do for small spaces). We have three people living in 1400 square feet and only feel a squeeze when we're entertaining. But creative furniture arrangements and house design can work wonders. Most of our households have 1-3 people, or four with small kids sharing a room, so I'm not sure how 4 larger people would fit. Our group is still working on your last concern -- meetings. During construction, meetings were very time-consuming and we weren't too effective in using our time. Since move-in, we've been working on a new meeting structure to contain the meetings and use alternative forms of information-seeking and consultation. We still haven't had the training in facilitation and consensus-making that Rob Sandelin emphasizes, but hopefully we'll get that soon. Sometimes it feels that we're (the whole group) putting in a lot of work (finishing our site, meeting, setting up committees, meeting some more) and getting little back. But then we'll have a fun work day or group retreat or dinner and movie at home with our neighbors, and it becomes worthwhile. I would simply second Rob Sandelin's comments on kids in cohousing -- it's been fantastic for our five-year old son. Jennifer McCoy Lake Claire Cohousing, Atlanta
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