|Re: Post Move-In||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Ray & Lydia Ducharme (ducharm1cadvision.com)|
|Date: Sun, 10 May 1998 17:33:35 -0500|
At 12:55 PM 5/10/98 -0500, MartyR707 wrote: >Boy this is a pretty depressing list - especially for one who has worked hard >for four years and still hasn't seen construction begin. How bout some of you >others posting some *positive* one-liners (or 2 or 3 liners for that matter!!) >for those of us who could use the boost!! >Marty Roberts >Two Acre Wood, Sebastopol. CA Marty, I joined our cohousing group in October of last year so I don't have the burnout that some longer term members might have...although I'm working on it! :-) I'm sold on cohousing because of visits to Windsong, the group my sister and her husband initiated in Langley, BC, Canada. It was completed in 1996. This is my impression of cohousing: People are very close. I was in the common house playing bridge when one of the girls needed someone to talk to. She opened up to myself (the stranger) and the three guys I was playing with. I couldn't believe the level of intimacy, trust and caring in this group. (From men yet! :-) When one of the senior residents was sick she received round the clock food and care from other members. Before she became ill she considered moving out (because of the kids); after her experience she said she'd NEVER move out! There are common suppers every night. I'm vegetarian and there is always a good selection of both meat and non-meat dishes. The meals are great and its really nice not to have to cook every night! There is always something happening in the common house. There are some neat games that you can play with a lot of people. We had about 15 people per team. Everyone that walked in joined one team or the other. We had a blast! There are always people to play "bridge", "scrabble" or other games with. When I'm washing dishes in front of the window my sister's neighbors see me and say hello. Lots of times I'm lucky and score a hug. I know that that's not for everybody but if you like it you can have your fill. One couple was moving out to another town. On the day that they were packing to leave people came over to help. Someone made lunch for everyone. Dozens of others packed boxes and filled up the moving truck. They weren't prepared at all and received phenomenal help from the group. I'm sure it broke their hearts to leave. Sometimes people need to get away. I was at a meeting in the common house where a couple of people mentioned that they had kept to themselves for a while because they had to "get away", but then said "I'm back!". You can get as much privacy as you need. Others understand if you want to be alone for a while. Cohousing is for everyone. Some people want to be in the thick of things and surround themselves with people all the time. Others (often the spouses of the extroverts) want to be alone so they can read or regroup. It works great at Windsong...the spouse that needs their space gets it, while their outgoing spouse gets their needs met. The kids love it at Windsong, there is always someone to play with. My sister tells her kids to leave their shoes outside if they are inside one of the other homes. Her kids go out early in the morning and are out playing with other kids or have other kids over most of the time. Some of the members recently bought a hottub (I can't wait!). They have gathering "nodes" all over the place. You can sit quietly with two or three people, or go where there are more. My sister takes more time getting to and from the laundry room than actually doing her laundry. They have a trampoline (an issue that had to be worked through by residents) and other great play structures for the kids. The parents sit and relax after dinner while the kids play together, it seems like heaven! There are lots of impromptu parties. Someone played some country tunes and a line dance was on. One girl knew how to dance and taught the rest of us. It was so neat! There were about 20 people dancing in 3 lines; people of all ages dancing together! The members have had african drumming lessons, they've booked a whole swimming pool, they had group meditations for peace (at New Year's), and many other interesting ideas for activities that people can easily participate in. My brother-in-law mentioned that if he had to do it over again he isn't sure if he would although they love living in Windsong. Both he and my sister quit their jobs to work on cohousing. I know it's a phenomenal amount of work no matter how you go about it. But I love what I see over there and my whole attitude about "community" has changed. We lived in a 1800 square foot house (plus basement) with attached garage. Yuck, I've never felt so isolated. Now community means everything and I'm willing to put in the work! Sorry this wasn't a one-liner! Lydia Wholelife Housing Calgary, Canada
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