|Too close for comfort....maybe||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Tonka444 (Tonka444aol.com)|
|Date: Sun, 17 May 1998 17:23:40 -0500|
Hello- My husband and I just got back from a weekend retreat given by a cohousing group we are considering joining. We have been to several business meetings and this was the first time we were able to relax and get to know the group better. The lodge was beautiful and we settled in to enjoy the retreat. I am a relatively open-minded person and was surprised when I became uncomfortable at several different times during the weekend. First was an exercise that was planned for the group. We were each to bring something to share with the group that was special to us, or tell a special story. The conversations in that share were very intense and I was told some very personal things. There were also tears. I felt like I was in a psychotherapy group rather than looking to join a resident designed neighborhood. I was going to talk about how I liked my watch!! (which seemed sort of shallow but I did not want to share my innermost feelings). Luckily my 3 year old had a meltdown and I had to leave. The other thing is holding hands and singing. I was just a little uncomfortable about that. I probably could get used to it but couldn't see myself eager to do it. My questions for the group is this....is living in cohousing like being in an encounter group forever? Do most groups hold hands and sing, etc?? I feel strange asking this but are there some groups that are less "new-agey" and more mainstream?? Please understand I do not mean to offend. On the bright side, there was a lot of fun with the kids, the people were very kind and supportive, and my kids really had fun! Any advice would be appreciated. signed.. The one who squirmed.
- Too close for comfort....maybe Tonka444, May 17 1998
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