|RE: On being too close for comfort||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Boleyn, Julie (JBoleynextensis.com)|
|Date: Sun, 17 May 1998 20:14:02 -0500|
I'm just postulating here, but I think each cohousing group is likely to have a very different character. Some groups are going to be very 'touchy-feely', other groups will not. The character of a group will likely change over-time depending on the people living there and the traditions they develop. I would think that each member of a cohousing community has a certain responsibility for helping to shape the culture, by making her/his needs and desires known. But, there is the responsibility of letting go and allowing others to do the same. So, while the touchy-feely (my words) retreat may have been too close for you, it may have been inspiring for others. But, next time you'll know that this isn't the space for you to be in. Perhaps it would be helpful to create a tradition that you do feel comfortable with, and see how the group deals with that.... - Julie p.s. Forgive me if I don't sound too coherent... I'm on my way to take a much needed nap after a glorious weekend of dancing... -----Original Message----- From: Sharon Villines Sent: Sunday, May 17, 1998 5:37 PM Subject: On being too close for comfort I share the feelings expressed by Tonka444 [at] aol.com about "sharing" intensely personal feelings--which are usually very heavy--no one seems to have intensely personal happy light feelings it seems--at least they don't share them in group exercises. Living is not therapy. Caring is not therapy. Life is not therapy. Therapy is retreat from living in order to clear up non-living and it needs to be done in carefully controlled, time and space limited situations, and guided by experienced well-trained professionals. I also am uncomfortable with exercises that ask one to describe themselves as a tree or a flower. I'm not a tree or a flower and have no interest in being one. The thing I was attracted to in cohousing is that it seems so sensible and practical and real. These stories concern me. Sharon Villines, Manhattan Archives of Detective Fiction, http://www.fictionlibrary.org Deadly Serious Press, http://www.deadlyserious.com Synergy Cohousing, Delray Beach, FL http://www.cohousing.net
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