|Re: Too close for comfort....maybe||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Virginia Moreland (vmorelandmindspring.com)|
|Date: Sun, 17 May 1998 21:30:44 -0500|
Regarding discomfort at too personal sharing and "getting to know you" exercises.. Our experience, about a year and a half into planning community building, is that we do some of this kind of thing. Some of us think it's too little, and some of us think it's too much. I'm of the former persuasion, and here's just one concrete example: Last week I was attempting to facilitate a meeting at which a lot highly-charged material was being addressed. It nearly went up in flames; I had a melt-down myself and had to abdicate the facilitator role. Not to make excuses for myself -- (I knew I was too emotionally involved and should have found someone else to lead the meeting) -- but I believe one of the contributing factors is that we have NOT been spending enough time airing feelings and conflicts in the group. Also newer members haven't shared the same history and developed the same comfort level as longer-term members. I firmly believe that issues of fear, trust, anger, etc. cause much more havoc when they're not openly addressed and are forced to go underground. For what it's worth, we sometimes (but not always) end our meetings by holding hands in a circle for a moment of silence. The first time someone suggested it, some folks were a little squeemish -- I think we're all comfortable now. Someone made sure we did it at the meeting mentioned above, and I really believe it enabled us all to gather ourselves and end the meeting in a better frame of mind. So far, we don't sing, but I wouldn't rule it out. Perhaps cohousing is sensible and practical once you're all nicely settled in, but getting there is a deeply personal adventure! ginny [at] eastlakecommons.org (Atlanta area) Where tensions were running high because we were just about to close the construction loan -- and we DID! Site-work begins Tuesday. "when your meeting goes up in flames, use the embers to build a campfire"
Too close for comfort....maybe Tonka444, May 17 1998
- Re: Too close for comfort....maybe Lynn Nadeau, May 17 1998
- Re: Too close for comfort....maybe Virginia Moreland, May 17 1998
- Re: Too close for comfort....maybe Diane Simpson, May 18 1998
- Re: Too close for comfort....maybe Pablo Halpern, May 19 1998
- Re: Too close for comfort....maybe Roman Bitner, May 19 1998
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