|Task vs. Process||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Ben Levi (bendimensional.com)|
|Date: Wed, 20 May 1998 10:45:29 -0500|
I would like to relay my experience both in living in community for three years, as well as participating in one of Scott Peck's 4-day community-building workshops. My experience is that living in co-housing/community is a full-bodied experience, and that means that people bring their hearts as well as their heads. The key to making any community/co-housing work is to find a way to honor both. This raises interesting issues when it comes to holding meetings. My experience is that there are generally two kinds of meetings: those that are "task" meetings designed for "decision-making", and those that are "process" meetings designed to share feelings and work out conflicts without necessarily reaching any decisions. A major problem can arise when you try to have a meeting where both energies are wanting "air time". In my experience, this can easily lead to disaster. The reason is that there are two different 'agendas' present, and I, for one, usually like it clarified beforehand which kind of meeting it's going to be: a business meeting where I come prepared to make decisions, or a heart-space meeting where I come to support people in building community in an open-ended sharing. In Scott Peck's 4-day workshop, this showed up very clearly when we went from our 'process' phase of building community (which took two days) to actually trying to get something accomplished as a group. I offered to facilitate the group to "solve a problem" we were given, and in the midst of doing so, a lot of additional feelings came up which really threw a wrench into the problem-solving effort. I saw quickly that we needed to build our community again, and told the group I sensed that we needed to put aside our problem solving plan until we worked the emotional charge out. I sat down, and didn't step back into my facilitation role until our group worked out what it needed to, and I was asked to resume. It was a powerful lesson in balancing 'task' and 'process' in a container. Because both are essential to creating and maintaining community (as well as a healthy co-housing situation), it's important to have both kinds of meetings, but I highly recommend you not mix the two in the same meeting...or if you do, make sure you get *everyone's* agreement that you're consciously switching from one mode to the other. Otherwise you'll have a very confused group on your hands. Ben Levi Geneva Group, Lyons Colorado Seven lots sharing 175 acres, with one that has just become available! -- Ben Levi | Ph:303-546-0679 | Fax: 303-473-0489 2800 Kalmia, #A-327 | Boulder, CO 80301 | ben [at] dimensional.com
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