|On elders wanting privacy||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Sharon Villines (SharonVillinesprodigy.net)|
|Date: Sat, 20 Jun 1998 17:09:02 -0500|
I'm 55 and have lived alone very happily for the last 10 years and for various periods of time before that. I love it. I'm probably more extreme than many but without 6-9 hours a day alone to think my own thoughts, I get crazy. I find being alone healing, exhilarating, and productive. While I am looking forward to having neighbors I know, a multigenerational community, the option of group meals at night, and people with whom to watch the Academy Awards, I get anxious about the general level of noise and the number of people to speak to everyday. And kids yelling at each other, parents yelling at the kids (parents yelling at kids are often the loudest), adults yelling to each other, loud parties on decks, loud music, etc., etc. Once you have tasted the joys of adult peacefulness, the idea of giving it up is very difficult. But I have also found that when I do live with others, I happily adapt as long as I have private space where no one interrupts my writing, messes up my desk, looses the scissors, or hides the mayonnaise. Thus a discussion about how the younger people feel about noise might be reassuring (unless they think noise is a healthy sign of life). Emphasizing design in which one side of their house looks out on nothingness would also be important. And emphasizing that everyone has their private house\unit. Sharon Villines, Manhattan Archives of Detective Fiction, http://www.fictionlibrary.org Deadly Serious Press, http://www.deadlyserious.com Synergy Cohousing, Delray Beach, FL http://www.cohousing.net
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