|CH game room||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: PattyMara (PattyMaraaol.com)|
|Date: Wed, 24 Jun 1998 13:03:49 -0500|
Dear List, I need the wisdom of the list to help us make some decisions about the usage of the game room in the Tierra Nueva common house (which is nearly finished, first move-ins slated for July/Aug). Over one year ago a community member asked the group if we were interested in a donation of a family heirloom slate pool table for use in the common house game room. We enthusiastically accepted the offer. He went to the expense of pulling it out of storage and restoring it. Last week at our regular business meeting the same member brought it back up to the group to receive confirmation that the pool table would indeed be placed in the game room. A long discussion followed with some of the newest members expressing some discomfort with the notion. After several rounds we crafted a proposal that incorporated two concerns: that the pool table be made convertable to a ping-pong table and that the issue be revisited in 6 months after move in. When put to a vote one new member thumbed it down. In the rhythms of our group process we *rarely* if ever, see thumbs down--most often a member with concerns will use a sideways thumb to slow down the vote, and ask for time or further study. It was a blow to the group to see the thumb down, and has presented us with the opportunity to evaluate a few things, such as: How do well do we communicate to new members our group process procedures and underlying values? How do we determine use of common house rooms, when the influx of new members seems to add new perceptions about what should go on in the various spaces? (Yes, we did "program" our common house with Chuck and Katie over 7 years ago, but most of the current members were not involved in that process-even though our common house was built with those programmings in mind) In the past when a member has not been able to go with the flow of the group the options have been to present a side-ways thumb, ask for clarification/more time/further study. An action item is created for that person or an appropriate committee to do the further study and bring it back to the group. If the vote is needed immediately, the option of "standing aside" is available. "Standing Aside" is a tenet of modified consensus decision-making that we practice. The opposing member makes a "gift to the group" to set aside his or her personal agenda to allow for forward motion for the good of the group. It is noted in the minutes of the meeting if anyone has chosen this path. Again, it is a rare occurance, and is deeply appreciated by the group. So my request for the wisdom of the list is: How do you communicate your consensus process to new members? Do you have a written Rights and Responsibilities of Group Membership? How do you determine common house room use, and keep it current with the influx of new members? Do any built groups have a pool table in their recreation room? What's your experience been? Thanks in advance. Patty Mara Gourley Tierra Nueva Cohousing, Central California Coast where new members are joining right and left, and only a few homes remain available.
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