|Re: Through the looking glass, #1||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: cynthia . e . carpenter (cynthia.e.carpenterus.arthurandersen.com)|
|Date: Wed, 5 Aug 1998 11:19:34 -0500|
Both Patty and Liz's comments really touched me. Like Patty, we sized down because of prices going up, from a 4-bedroom to a 3-bedroom. Our new home feels awfully small, for such a big price tag, and all the more so because we had a third child during the time between choosing a unit and the (repeatedly delayed) move-in! He was born at home, and we had hoped that he would be the first child born into our cohousing community. Instead, his birth in our old home makes me feel sadder about leaving that apartment and makes this new apartment in cohousing seem kind of cold and empty. (Even though my old apartment was a dark, run-down, badly-designed 2-bedroom, and my new cohousing apartment is a beautiful, light, spacious-feeling 3-bedroom - go figure.) I hope it takes less than Liz's five years for it to feel more like home to me. I think I'll go home tonight and find a good wall to mark my kids' heights! If I can hazard a general theory from these few comments: my guess is that people who are attracted to cohousing are often people who work hard at building community wherever they are, and that leaving that community, even for a new, long-desired dream community, will often be hard! It certainly has been for me, and I really wasn't prepared for just *how* hard it is. My new neighbors are wonderful, and we've worked together for years, but I miss my old home and neighbors terribly. We're setting up regular contact rituals - Friday night dinners at our house, my daughter going to their house one day/week after school - and I think that will ease some of the separation pain. - Cindy Cambridge Cohousing Privileged/Confidential Information may be contained in this message. If you are not the addressee indicated in this message (or responsible for delivery of the message to such person), you may not copy or deliver this message to anyone. In such case, you should destroy this message, and please notify us immediately. Please advise immediately if you or your employer does not consent to Internet email for messages of this kind. Opinions, conclusions and other information expressed in this message are not given or endorsed by my firm or employer unless otherwise indicated by an authorized representative independent of this message.
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