|Re: Consensus Fallbacks||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Dahako (Dahakoaol.com)|
|Date: Wed, 13 Jan 1999 20:50:19 -0600|
lilbert [at] concentric.net - Thanks for the response. You made a few incorrect inferences from my note - which just goes to show the weaknesses of email, I guess. On the "knee-jerk" thing - I didn't actually show my colors by using the term since I am one of the confused Midwesterners and was raised by an ardent pacifist. If the issue ever comes to a vote here, my husband and I will probably pull opposite ways, nullifying our household's vote. (We had some of the most difficult arguments of our relationship of 15 years on this one - this is a tough issue to frame.) And, several of our northeasterners themselves characterized their responses with the term. I'm familiar with the type of person you describe - we certainly saw enough of them during our marketing phase. I think, however, that the prospects who raised the issue were authentic and would really have purchased a lot and lived as joyous, productive community members. They went through the conflict mediation process with the group (which involved some long meetings) and thanked us afterward because they felt that even if things did not come out the way they had hoped, all the hard work on communication was improving their marriage. The group would not have done the work on this issue that we did if we didn't understand ourselves to be dealing with people who were a likely "fit" otherwise. And, after an initial misstep, we definitely were not trying to placate them. We have a buddy policy and new member orientations. Part of the old member/new member tension stems from legacy policies that date back to when only two members of the current group were involved (as I understand it, Eno Commons imploded on its first outing, reformed with 3 households, then had several long lags between bursts of folk joining). Legacy policies are an issue with many members who have been in the group three years or less. I guess we'll be doing "re-visioning" one of these days too. My understanding about why Sherri decided to withdraw as a member was because she was getting overloaded being both developer and member and keeping up with her day job and decided to concentrate on the developer role. (I didn't go back to check the minutes on this one - so, since Sherri reads this list, she can pitch in and correct me if I've "misspoke".) Again my opinion - I think she joined the group for the gun discussion because she felt strongly about the issue. Jessie Handforth Kome Eno Commons Durham, NC Where we've sold all the dern lots once, but one just wants to be sold again. Construction of 5 of the last 6 homes starts soon. We eat together often and just held a Tuesday night panel discussion on the relative merits and drawbacks of tractors, riding lawn mowers, and goats. We disagree lots, often, and sometimes even cheerfully.
- Re: Consensus Fallbacks, (continued)
- Re: Consensus Fallbacks Stevenson/Bitner, January 14 1999
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