|RE: Email for cohousing||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Rob Sandelin (floriferousemail.msn.com)|
|Date: Wed, 6 Oct 1999 14:21:03 -0600 (MDT)|
This has come up in several communities that I have done mediation for in the last couple of years. "flame mail" is a safe way for some people to communicate angry words from the safety of their own home. In some cases this opening up is a good thing, in others it is bad. There are lots of problems with communications in groups. E-mail is a tool that can solve some of them, but then adds its own set of problems. I tend to fall on the side that communication of angry and emotional laden feelings is always better than the hiding of those feelings. Unresolved resentments and anger are some of the worse things that can poison a persons happiness. And far too many groups have NO structure to deal with such things, and actually subltly convey to members that its not OK to bring such things up. So with no forum to bring up your resentments and anger where does it go? It usually does not dissapear. However, email is a crummy substitute for an empathetic listener whose shoulder you can cry on if you need to. The best situation I saw regarding e-mail was at a place called Aurora Village. At the first hint of flames or other distress, email was used to call an immediate meeting, like that very night. Email was just the method a person could use to call for help. Rob Sandelin Northwest Intentional Communties Association Building a better society, one neighborhood at a time
- Email for Cohousing, (continued)
- Re: Email for Cohousing Lynn Nadeau, October 7 1999
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