Cohousing-L Mailing List: conflict resolution

[Oliveau2 (Oliveau2]

In a message dated 10/6/99 4:22:34 PM Eastern Daylight Time, 
floriferous [at] email.msn.com writes:

<< Unresolved resentments
 and anger are some of the worse things that can poison a persons happiness.
 And far too many groups have NO structure to deal with such things, and
 actually subltly convey to members that its not OK to bring such things up.
 So with no forum to bring up your resentments and anger where does it go? It
 usually does not dissapear. >>

During a session on conflict resolution at the cohousing conference in 
Amherst this month, those from the Heartwood Cohousing community in Colorado 
talked about several things they do to keep things clear. I recommend their 
web site: www.heartwoodcohousing.com  where a great deal of their process is 
described.
At their suggestion, we are copying quite a bit of the approach they have 
worked out!
Lauranne Oliveau
for Proximity Cohousing
703/453-0487 or 703/346-2489
oliveau2 [at] aol.com
www.proximitycohousing.com