Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Excuse me?

[Hollie Butler (hollie]

What annoys me is the idea that anyone who gets (rightfully) angry isn't 
acting like a "civilized adult". Why is it so hard to believe that people
wouldn't get angry face to face?

March did not insult anyone, in fact she was responding to being insulted. I
really don't see how this was unreasonable. She managed to make her points
without "degenerating" to the level of the post she was replying to.


-hollie


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Trillium Hollow Cohousing
Portland, Oregon
hollie [at] meandering.org
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>From: "Bitner/Stevenson" <lilbert [at] earthlink.net>
>To: Multiple recipients of list <cohousing-l [at] freedom2.mtn.org>
>Subject: Re: Excuse me?
>Date: Thu, Jan 6, 2000, 5:09 AM
>

> I find it hard to believe that any of you would behave this way in a
> meeting, face to face. I'm really annoyed that this discussion has
> degenerated to this level. Grow up and start acting like civilized adults!
> --
> Liz Stevenson
> Southside Park Cohousing
> Sacramento, California
>
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>>From: "Jose Marquez" <marchpower [at] worldnet.att.net>
>>To: Multiple recipients of list <cohousing-l [at] freedom2.mtn.org>
>>Subject: Excuse me?
>>Date: Thu, Jan 6, 2000, 1:45 AM
>>
>
>>> If no one had "judged" what others had seemingly "decided to do for
>> themselves"
>>> you would probably be working at traditional "women's work"
>>> (kids, no college, shit work) regardless of your money.
>>
>> I don't know who you are, scowley [at] library.utah.edu, but this is a 
>> HORRIBLE
>> thing to say!  Not only have you revealed yourself to consider MY LIFE
>> CHOICE as "shitwork"...but I see this attitude as being exactly what made
>> being a "housewife" so miserable for so many women for so many years!  Do
>> you have children?  From your careless reference to the incredible beings
>> that make life so precious to so many happy parents around the world as
>> "kids" I certainly hope NOT!  And just what exactly is "shit work"?  Perhaps
>> cleaning YOUR toilet would be less than fulfilling, but I happen to enjoy
>> cleaning my home, preparing my kitchen for the next healthy meal I'll cook,
>> vacuuming is tons of fun with a 1 year old chasing you (or being chased),
>> and dusting (once a year) is immensly satisfying as I watch thick dust being
>> wiped away and deep red wood again being exposed!  And why on earth would
>> you consider lack of college to be the realm of womanhood?  Don't you think
>> MEN have ever been without college?  Don't Fathers also care for their
>> children?  There may be a stereotype of women maids...but there's a reason
>> why Garbageman is used a lot more often than Garbagepeople!
>>
>> I hope you'll think more carefully in the future before clicking SEND...this
>> comment, I believe, did a lot more harm than good.
>>
>> ~March
>>
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