|Re: Through the looking glasses?||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: MartyR707 (MartyR707aol.com)|
|Date: Sat, 29 Jan 2000 18:19:14 -0700 (MST)|
In a message dated 1/29/00 10:13:59 AM, aamato [at] worldbank.org writes: << At least twice you mentioned that people from outside the community, either a neighbor or a member who does not live there. How do you handle non-resident members? I was wondering how formal the relationship is. We are starting to talk about this since we have had people outside our membership who want to be involved, and "hang out" with us some times. >> well, here's a short version: we had lengthy discussions before move-in on how to handle this. Of course there was lots of disagreement and varying points of view. Especially on what sort of financial contribution they might make - anywhere from "nothing" to "it cost us a bundle to build this, they should pay to use it" to "why don't they buy a piece of furniture for the common house". We finally decided to move in first and talk about it later. there is a currently a proposal brewing for discussion (I haven't seen it). Meanwhile, there is a couple who did n't get a unit, but miraculously found a rental next door! who are active members of the community. they are on committees, share childcare, eat with us, etc. It has not been formalized yet, but just happened because they made themselves attractive by coming to meetings and Helping! Actually she is kitchen manager even! And there is a single mother who couldn't afford to buy in but lives two blocks away and has been part of the group almost since inception. She also serves on committees, comes to meetings and cooks. those are our two "informal nonresident members" so far. Both households were members before we built and have known us for some time. Others are starting to show interest. Some of us don't want to have an open dinner scene where whoever wants to can come eat for $3, but we also like the idea of more cooks, friends, etc. so we are still working it out. Stay tuned. the neighbors that hosted the Taiko drummers are just that - neighbors across the street. They were our biggest opponents when we were trying to get city approval (an apple orchard was cleared for 14 houses on two acres right out their front window) - and have become our best friends ever since we moved in. they always liked us, but had hoped for fewer homes in their view. Their daughter babysits, we share gardening ideas, they gave us champagne with personalized labels for our housewarming, etc. On New Year's while we were drumming in their driveway, the husband even came out with handfuls of glasses and champagne to share around. We recently had the whole family over for common dinner. Marty Roberts Two Acre Wood
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