Re: Problematic Controlling Personalities and Cohousing | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Matt Lawrence (matttechnoronin.com) | |
Date: Wed, 1 Nov 2000 11:34:23 -0700 (MST) |
On Wed, 1 Nov 2000 Tonka444 [at] aol.com wrote: > We have a problem. Interpersonal conflicts are starting to cause > problems within our process. When you are sitting in a meeting, and one > member is fuming inside at another, the whole group feels it. Then we have > one or two members who try to dominate the entire group....going off on their > own tangents without the group's consent and this too is creating conflict. Honest communinication is really tough for Americans. Our culture also encourages all sorts of competative behaviour, leading to dominance games. I know that I walked away from one cohousing group when I felt that they were being less than honest with themselves and when one person basically told me to "sit down and shut up". There's another group that I am an associate member where I have more expertise in one small area of the design and construction than anyone else. I've been ignored. This has hurt my feelings very badly. Learn to communicate. Learn and truly understand that a cohousing community doesn't have to be based on the economics of scarcity where for one person to get what they want, somebody else has to give up something. And more than anything else, learn how to be honest with yourself. -- Matt
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Problematic Controlling Personalities and Cohousing Tonka444, November 1 2000
- Re: Problematic Controlling Personalities and Cohousing Matt Lawrence, November 1 2000
- Re: Problematic Controlling Personalities and Cohousing Kay Argyle, November 7 2000
- Re: Problematic Controlling Personalities and Cohousing Judy Baxter, November 7 2000
- Re: Problematic Controlling Personalities and Cohousing Berrins, November 7 2000
- RE: Problematic Controlling Personalities and Cohousing Rob Sandelin, November 8 2000
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