RE: Details on Resentment issues in mandatory cooking | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Rob Sandelin (floriferousmsn.com) | |
Date: Thu, 19 Apr 2001 02:14:16 -0600 (MDT) |
I think your idea of eating circles is cool. But if you want to try making meal work mandatory give it a try, just check in for resentment every once and awhile. Every community has its own set of ways it works, and I am sure that mandatory meal work might work in some places just fine. A mandatory meal work community might filter in specific kinds of people who want that kind of setup to keep things going. Every community is a unique expression of the people who live there and there are no right answers that fit every community. So experiment around with stuff, evaluate what is working and what needs fixing. Community is like gardening. Its not a result, its a process that goes on forever, always changing with the seasons. Rob Sandelin Community Works! -----Original Message----- From: cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org [mailto:cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org]On Behalf Of Racheli&John Sent: Wednesday, April 18, 2001 12:01 PM To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org Subject: Re: [C-L]_Details on Resentment issues in mandatory cooking ** Reply to note from "Rob Sandelin" <floriferous [at] msn.com> Wed, 18 Apr 2001 11:44:19 -0700 >From Racheli Hi Rob, I think most (if not all) of us conceded that we shouldn't make cooking/cleaning mandatory for those who don't want to eat common meals. So the question boils down to only: Does it make sense to ask for work participation from those who would like to be in on the eating? I am also ready to acknowledge that if a community has enough happy voluntary cookers and cleaners (who are ready to do all the cooking and cleaning), then there is absolutely no reason to press anyone else into service. - Certainly voluntary arrangements are preferable to mandatory ones, as long as they work! In the case of my community (Sonora cohousing), there are some indications that this might not work: Since our CH isn't ready, we tried a system in which some people volunteered to cook for a given number of people, and those who wanted to eat had to sign up. The idea was that once people ate one or more meals cooked by others, they would volunteer to cook. This didn't happen. We switched to a system in which one signs up for an eating circle, where people take turns to cook for others. This has been working much better. I don't think think that most people mind the fact that the "have" to cook or clean in order to be fed... IMO for most of us this *does* seem to involve a basic notion of fairness. I think that if someone came and told me: I really want to be part of the eating circle, but I hate cooking etc. Could you cook in my place, and I'll do something else for you (eg: dig holes for your plants - since you have a bad back), I'd be thrilled to do it. So, the system doesn't need to be all that rigid, as far as I'm concerned - such arrangements could be made, I imagine, even when our CH is done (one assumes this *will* happen)... This is different from the all voluntary scheme, because a participant-in-eating needs to find her/his replacement. R. _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
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Re: Details on Resentment issues in mandatory cooking Racheli&John, April 18 2001
- RE: Details on Resentment issues in mandatory cooking Rob Sandelin, April 19 2001
- RE: Details on Resentment issues in mandatory cooking Racheli&John, April 19 2001
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