|Following agreements||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Rob Sandelin (floriferousmsn.com)|
|Date: Tue, 5 Jun 2001 11:07:01 -0600 (MDT)|
One of the reasons I asked whether or not anybody on this list did outreach to non-participants, and it seems the answer is mostly no, is to set up the next question. Are your agreements followed by everyone? Or do agreements sometimes not get followed? I have run into a dynamic in a few cohousing groups I have worked with, where people are a bit frustrated because they go ahead and make a decision, and then those that were not present (and sometimes even those that were) don't follow it. For example, A pretty good conflict arose in one community I worked with about kids cleaning up their messes. I heard several people say: "The community agreed to the clean up policy" but I also heard that "few parents with kids were at that meeting". Since the ones who were expected to do the work were mostly not there, they apparently were not doing the work and had issues about the agreement that needed to be resolved. Those that were at the meeting expected compliance with the decision and apparently had the attitude of be at the meeting or tough. Add a touch of bad communication, mix in a grumpy outburst by a non-parent, and the group split into sides amazingly quickly. The conflict started out as following agreements, but the unlying issue really ended up being minority decision making that does not reflect the whole group. This particular cohousing group regularly only gets 30-40% of its members to attend meetings, which meets the quorum requirements but apparently isn't enough to make some decisions actually work. (it was instructive to hear WHY people did not attend meetings) I have seen groups that operate by consensus that demand every single person that was not present to sign off on certain kinds of group policy type decisions. This way, nobody escapes the responsibility just because they couldn't be in a certain physical space during a specific time. The passive/aggressive withdrawal behavior is not rewarded by being allowed to shirk your group responsibilities. If I withdraw because I am mad, I am still required to participate by signing off on the agreement, and thus the group has to deal with my issues, ideally sooner than later. In my observation, consensus does not seem to work very well in groups bigger than 20 where less than half of the members participate and everybody is expected to implement the decision. Rob Sandelin Community Works! Http://www.ic.org/nica/cw1.htm _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
Re: Does your community get all adults in a consensus decision? Elizabeth Stevenson, June 1 2001
- Quorum Robert P. Arjet, June 1 2001
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