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|From: HeidiNYS (HeidiNYSaol.com)|
|Date: Thu, 7 Jun 2001 18:43:01 -0600 (MDT)|
Dear Robert, We've lived at Cantines Island co-housing three years, this Winter will be four. While many of us traveled various distances [some over 100 miles, the closest, perhaps 25 miles, for a while till renting nearby, one household came in from Washinton DC, 4-5 hours away.] We had pretty good attendance at meetings for years before move-in. and we met for years and years. Meetings were generally pretyty good-humored. And long. Our formatt included an open house/tour, for potential interested folks, then intros all 'round, and dialogue with new folks, then a pot-luck lunch!! that would wrap up about 2PM, and then we'd go into committee meetings and then the full meeting. Believe it or not, after all this, perhaps one out of three times, most of us would walk to supper together at the Chinese Restaurant, just across the bridge from here. We formed a lot of connection. Recently, almost 4 yrs after move-in, we do have many meetings w'out a quorum. Our experience, all best, Ruth hirsch Cantines Island Co-housing, inviting another family.... we were able to buy a small adjacent piece of land, overlooking river rapids.... near Woodstock, in the breathtakingly beautiful hudson Valley. In a message dated 6/7/01 1:01:43 PM, cohousing-l-request [at] cohousing.org writes: Message: 8 Date: Thu, 07 Jun 2001 11:39:35 -0400 Subject: Re: [C-L]_Following agreements To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org From: "Robert P. Arjet" <rarjet [at] learnlink.emory.edu> Reply-To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org I'd be interested in hearing more about these reasons. We're still in the "forming" stage, so I'm not surprised that are a lot of people who attend 50% of the meetings or less. I've assumed, however, that once we are a "real" group, with "real" members and money involved, that regular attendance will simply be one of the duties of membership. However, it looks like in a lot of communities attendance is just not a requirement or a social norm. Maybe I spent too many years on football teams in Texas, but it seems to me that if you don't show up for practice, you really can't expect to play. Am I right in assuming that any consensus-based group with a 40% attendance rate has much bigger problems than who cleans up messes? I can't imagine trying to get compliance on a decision when 60% of the affected parties weren't there. To stretch my metaphor dreadfully, that's like trying to run a brand-new play when only the quarterback, the wide receiver, and a couple of the linemen were at practice. 60% of the players aren't going to know what to do, it's going to fail miserably, and all the people who weren?t at practice will agree that the play was a bad idea. The worst part is that in cohousing, there's not even a coach to blame. I guess what's at the bottom of my curiosity is this: do other people consider meeting attendance a central requirement of living in a consensus-based community? If so, then why is there so much trouble in getting people to show up? What are those instructive reasons for people not showing up, and do they generally hold water? Thanks, Robert Arjet Central Austin Cohousing www.austincohousing.org where we have agreed to accept membership money, but until we have a budget, we're not allowed to spend any... _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
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