|Deciding on a site||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Rob Sandelin (floriferousmsn.com)|
|Date: Sun, 10 Jun 2001 18:51:05 -0600 (MDT)|
Cohousing in its forming state is a odd mixture of real estate development and community building. Trying to blend these things together is oil and water and sometimes it can be helpful for the group to keep them separate and distinct. Deciding on a site, and what goes into that, is often the first steps a group takes into the Real estate development side. It also is where you move from visionary abstract conceptual to concrete and factual. The visionary abstraction can attract a type of person that does not do concrete factual very well. This is often an unnoticed conflict place. As real estate developers you have several concrete elements which need to be in place. For site selection the elements are criteria, legal, and financial. Financial commitment and risk is a very large part of this stage of the enterprise and this risk creates an undercurrent of feelings of fear and vulnerability. This in turn propels people to react with sometimes intense behaviors. One way to select a site in a group that is divided is to simply poll for financial commitment. Ask, who will willing to commit their financial assets to this site. If there is enough financial commitment, and enough committed energy then you move to the next steps. One step is to create a financial member status, so those that want to stay with the group for awhile but not invest can do so. It does not have to be, buy in or you are out. One thing I have observed a couple of times is that once a real financial commitment is made, it stops being a fantasy, and those people who never did have the ability to make the commitment drop out. They would have dropped out of ANY site chosen, because once you secure a site, it becomes a real thing. This is not to say people with no money should not ever be part of your group. But I would be careful as real estate developers and community builders, not to let the community dream die because those that do not have any assets, or don't want to make any real commitment, block the group from moving on one. I would also encourage those that are in a group that decides on a site you don't like to stay in the group and learn. You can always leave later, start a new group on a site you like, and you will have had the benefit of the learning experience. Rob Sandelin Community Works! _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
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