|Re: Re: sliding scale||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Robert P. Arjet (rarjetLearnLink.Emory.Edu)|
|Date: Wed, 16 Jan 2002 15:26:01 -0700 (MST)|
cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org writes: >>One of the concerns that has >>>been raised is how we would handle someone who consistently "abuses" the >>>policy. > >You have to really let go of this. This reminds me of an earlier post that pointed out that "Most of us come from such a competitive and fear based western culture where rules/punishment/reward is the way that we are used to being controlled even when most are reasonably benign. The fact that we aspire to live co-operatively is terrific but challenging." Four of us talked last night about the idea of having our meetings followed not by pot-lucks, but by common meals, cooked by a couple of members (we are waaay pre-construction). Of course, the question arose of how to pay for it. We discussed several options, and ended up deciding to propose one that was very vulnerable to abuse. We decided that, in the absence of evidence to the contrary, we would assume the best about our fellow group members and take the risk that somebody might try to abuse the system. I think cohousing fundamentally requires choosing to assume the best, rather than the worst, of people. Yes, we will get burned from time to time, but the cost of being cheated is so very much less than the cost of continuing to live in our "competitive and fear based western culture." My $.02 Robert Arjet Central Austin Cohousing http://www.austincohousing.org _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
Re: sliding scale Lynn Nadeau, January 16 2002
- Re: Re: sliding scale Robert P. Arjet, January 16 2002
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