RE: managing outbursts in meetings | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Ruddick, T.R. (RUDDICKedison.cc.oh.us) | |
Date: Mon, 15 Apr 2002 21:06:18 -0600 (MDT) |
Other aspects, not intending to contradict anything that's been written about this so far. Once anyone violates a group norm in a noticable way, the other members of the group normally focus lots of energy and talk on that person in order to correct their deviation. The likelihood of an emotional outburst increases as the expectation of that sort of "correction" increases. If your group does a lot of talking about what people should and shouldn't do or say, you have this highly defensive type of communication climate. Then again, we should acknowledge that there are some people for whom emotional outbursts are not motivated by deep personal anguish, but instead are highly strategic actions aimed at obtaining selfish outcomes efficiently. If I bellow loudly enough, maybe the others will back off and give me what I want out of avoidance/fear/disgust. In sincerely motivated emotional outbursts, it's important for the group to try to be accepting and supportive and, as described, to try to get the person to express those genuine feelings constructively. In strategic, "jungle-fighter" types of outburst, it's important to limit the aggressive person and establish norms of equality and respect for everyone involved. I wish everyone luck in identifying which of these conditions fits your own groups' outbursts! Because it's not always easy. TR Ruddick Dayton OH cohousing... _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
- RE: Managing Outbursts in Meetings, (continued)
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RE: Managing Outbursts in Meetings Tree Bressen, April 16 2002
- Re: Managing Outbursts in Meetings Sharon Villines, April 16 2002
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Re: Managing Outbursts in Meetings LScottr2go, April 14 2002
- Re: Managing Outbursts in Meetings Sheila Braun, April 14 2002
- RE: managing outbursts in meetings Ruddick, T.R., April 15 2002
- Re: RE: managing outbursts in meetings Sheila Braun, April 16 2002
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RE: Managing Outbursts in Meetings Tree Bressen, April 16 2002
- Re: Managing Outbursts in Meetings Eris Weaver, April 16 2002
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