Re: Meetings are a bad way to recruit people
From: Racheli Gai (
Date: Wed, 20 Nov 2002 08:12:10 -0700 (MST)
 "Rob Sandelin" <floriferous [at]> said:

I agree in part.  I suspect that it's good for newcomers to see different
aspects of community life and process before they
join.  Probably seeing only meetings is a bad idea.  But I'd say that
seeing *at least one meeting*, in addition to observing/ participating in
the fun stuff is very important.  I personally wouldn't have joined a
community without knowin/observing how it governs itself.  Maybe I'm more
aware of such issues
than some, but IMO it would be a mistake for anyone to join
without inquiring into this aspect.


>Joe and Lisa are interested in community. They are invited to a couple of
>meetings. Lets face it, meetings don't always go very well, and are not
>really necessarily reflective of what kind of community you will be. They
>see tension, and perhaps an overly controlled environment. Blech! Is that
>what community is about? They get little chance to talk to anybody. It
>feels kind of icky. No thanks they say, this community stuff is not what
>we thought it was, and they are never seen again.

>Loe and Jisa are interested in community They are invited to a group
>dinner. Its a fun social event, they talk to many people, share their
>lives and interests, find out that another couple has a lot in common
>with them. They feel connected, and part of the larger family sense which
>is a great deal more like what the community you are trying to build is
>really about. Loe pitches in with the dishes, Jisa sets up a time to get
>together with another couple. They commit quickly because they understand
>at a gut level, what community is about now. It feels good.

jnpalme [at] (Racheli Gai)

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