|Re: Don't discuss this in committees||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Sharon Villines (sharonsharonvillines.com)|
|Date: Thu, 21 Nov 2002 11:05:01 -0700 (MST)|
On 11/21/02 11:54 AM, "Becky Schaller" <bschaller [at] theriver.com> wrote: > Some people felt that the community needed to respect this persons request. > They were already going through such a very difficult time and community > discussion would only add to their distress. Others felt like this was a > community issue and we needed to discuss it and deal with it as well as we > could. This was an issue which was dividing the community into different > camps and needed to be dealt with. It isn't clear from your description which issue is dividing the community -- the issue that was upsetting one household or the issue of how to deal with the issue upsetting one household. We have had more than one instance where one household had a personal crisis that they were not ready to talk about. The way this was dealt with was one person was asked by the household to be the designated link and communicator. That way someone close to the household had all the information including what the household wanted shared and how they wanted it shared and could assure the rest of the community that things were going as well as could be expected. People could also approach this person with offers of help and that person could make arrangements with the household or tell the person offering the service that it wasn't necessary. This has worked very well for all concerned. The household had their privacy and the rest of the community felt that they were doing all they could and would be informed if anything else was needed. Explaining a difficult situation to 43 other households can be very difficult. We have also had very good experiences with parents sharing information about their children and how they wanted them treated on the private list for members. Things like what to say and not say to my child about my illness, how to cope with my child's difficult behavior, etc. A tremendous help. Transparency is so important in building trust and comfort. Share information. Sharon -- Sharon Villines Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC http://www.takomavillage.org _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
Don't discuss this in committees Becky Schaller, November 21 2002
- Re: Don't discuss this in committees Sharon Villines, November 21 2002
- Re: Don't discuss this in committees/children-long Elizabeth Stevenson, November 21 2002
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