Re: Don't discuss this in committees
From: Elizabeth Stevenson (
Date: Thu, 21 Nov 2002 12:50:01 -0700 (MST)
I would add to my previous post to make my position more clear: I don't
think it's fair for someone to live in a community and ask that people not
speak about a problem that affects others. It will get discussed, but not
openly, and rumors will fly, damaging the community even more.


> From: Becky Schaller <bschaller [at]>

> This sensitive issue very directly involved two households.  It also
> directly affected numerous other households.  One household wanted open
> communication and one did not want community or committee discussions.
> People in the community interpreted the information in different ways and
> came to different conclusions -- often times opposing conclusions.   We were
> also asked not to discuss the issue on email and rumors were being spread.
> It was really very difficult to be supportive of both parties.
> What divided the community was not only what people thought about the
> particular issue, but also whether or not we should be discussing this as a
> community or whether we should honor the silence that one person requested.
> As we continue to process the experience as a community, I'd like for us to
> have some kind of guidelines as to how to respond in the future if someone
> asks the community not to discuss a particular topic.

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