Hijacking the process | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Rob Sandelin (floriferousmsn.com) | |
Date: Thu, 24 Apr 2003 14:47:15 -0600 (MDT) |
A person who hijacks the group process does so by deliberately using a cooperative process in a non-cooperative way, with the intent to serve themselves. If I want French fries for dinner, then I block the agreement on dinner until the whole group, in order to satisfy just me, agrees to do this. Since I can use blocking to stop the group from proceeding, I use this as a tool to get what I want. Another less visible way to hijack the process is to dominate the agenda, insisting that my issues are the priorities for the group to work on, and then again using blocking to not let the group set agenda priorities that I don't want. Another way to hijack the process is to be dominating, speaking the most, speaking the longest, speaking the loudest. Eventually people give up in disgust and then I WIN! Passive Aggressive hijacks include noisy withdrawals from discussions I can't control, then coming back at the end to block the decision. An especially insidious way to hijack the process is the whispering campaign, where outside of the meeting I make allegations of misbehavior or other character assignations to undermine those I disagree with. This can be done with great agility so that you never exactly know where the idea came from that Susan is untrustworthy and so the issue she is sponsoring must be suspect. Rob Sandelin South Snohomish County at the headwaters of Ricci Creek Sky Valley Environments <http://www.nonprofitpages.com/nica/SVE.htm> Field skills training for student naturalists Floriferous [at] msn.com -----Original Message----- From: cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org [mailto:cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org]On Behalf Of Sharon Villines Sent: Wednesday, April 23, 2003 8:07 AM To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org Subject: Re: [C-L]_Control freaks and groups > It works wonders for > cooperative process once control freaks figure out they can't hijack the > process anymore, and this changes their behaviors. Labeling people "control freaks" is really making me uncomfortable. Could we discuss this in other terms -- like how do you deal with a person who objects to all decisions made in her absence or who continues to argue a point when other group members want to move on? How do group members make a decision that professional process intervention is necessary when one person objects? "Hijack" the process? What does this really mean? Sharon -- Sharon Villines Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC http://www.takomavillage.org _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L --- Incoming mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.332 / Virus Database: 186 - Release Date: 3/6/02 --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.332 / Virus Database: 186 - Release Date: 3/6/02 _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L
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Control freaks and groups Rob Sandelin, April 23 2003
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