Hijacking the process
From: Rob Sandelin (floriferousmsn.com)
Date: Thu, 24 Apr 2003 14:47:15 -0600 (MDT)
A person who hijacks the group process does so by deliberately using a
cooperative process in a non-cooperative way, with the intent to serve
themselves. If I want French fries for dinner, then I block the agreement on
dinner until the whole group, in order to satisfy just me, agrees to do
this. Since I can use blocking to stop the group from proceeding, I use this
as a tool to get what I want. Another less visible  way to hijack the
process is to dominate the agenda, insisting that my issues are the
priorities for the group to work on, and then again using blocking to not
let the group set agenda priorities that I don't want.

Another way to hijack the process is to be dominating, speaking the most,
speaking the longest, speaking the loudest. Eventually people give up in
disgust and then I WIN!

Passive Aggressive hijacks include noisy withdrawals from discussions I
can't control, then coming back at the end to block the decision.

An especially insidious way to hijack the process is the whispering
campaign, where outside of the meeting I make allegations of misbehavior or
other character assignations to undermine those I disagree with. This can be
done with great agility so that you never exactly know where the idea came
from that Susan is untrustworthy and so the issue she is sponsoring must be
suspect.

Rob Sandelin
South Snohomish County at the headwaters of Ricci Creek
Sky Valley Environments  <http://www.nonprofitpages.com/nica/SVE.htm>
Field skills training for student naturalists
Floriferous [at] msn.com


-----Original Message-----
From: cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org
[mailto:cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org]On Behalf Of Sharon Villines
Sent: Wednesday, April 23, 2003 8:07 AM
To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
Subject: Re: [C-L]_Control freaks and groups




> It works wonders for
> cooperative process once control freaks figure out they can't  hijack the
> process anymore, and this changes their  behaviors.

Labeling people "control freaks" is really making me uncomfortable. Could we
discuss this in other terms -- like how do you deal with a person who
objects to all decisions made in her absence or who continues to argue a
point when other group members want to  move on? How do group members make a
decision that professional process intervention is necessary when one person
objects?

"Hijack" the process? What does this really mean?

Sharon
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Sharon Villines
Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
http://www.takomavillage.org

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