Re: Yelling and running, was Re: [C-L]_Noise in Common House | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Sharon Villines (sharonsharonvillines.com) | |
Date: Sat, 4 Oct 2003 07:52:07 -0600 (MDT) |
On 10/04/2003 9:27 AM, "Mabel Liang" <mabel [at] twomeeps.com> wrote: > In our group, we have a number of parents who think it is impractical to > expect that young children (say, toddlers) will not yell and run. I am > personally baffled by the reasoning, but I think the general idea is that > you can't expect children that young to understand or follow these rules. > And the parents are unwilling to stop this behavior. So we have no such > rules. This is one of my great pet peeves about some parents. It is an insult to the intelligence of children to believe that they cannot learn that behavior is appropriate or inappropriate in different circumstances. By the age of one year, all our babies, four so far, have understood when it is time to be quiet and when they should not run. Just like adults (who is an adult?), they do forget and are not always quiet when they understand they should be, but they are perfectly capable of understanding context by the age of one year, many well before this. They certainly understand safety issues. If a one year old can understand this, the older children can also. Our children are not allowed to run or yell in the commonhouse and with the exception of exuberant outbursts like everyone else, they don't. I think we are up to 11 between the ages of 1 to 14 (every time a cite a figure someone reminds me of one more). It is important to have places where running and yelling are allowed, not only because children have more energy than they know what to do with, but so they understand that it is not their their behavior that is being "squashed" but the place in which they exercise it. Indoor and outdoor voices and behavior is one good way to make the distinction. And why are only the parents making the rules about how members of the community will behave? Anyone running up and downstairs is a liability risk, particularly when it is several people pushing and shoving each other. Noise pollution is noise pollution -- do these parents keep their children at home when they yell? Get a grip! Sharon -- Sharon Villines Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC http://www.takomavillage.org _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L
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Noise in Common House Rob James, October 3 2003
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Re: Noise in Common House Sharon Villines, October 3 2003
- Re: Noise in Common House Elizabeth Stevenson, October 3 2003
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Yelling and running, was Re: [C-L]_Noise in Common House Mabel Liang, October 4 2003
- Re: Yelling and running, was Re: [C-L]_Noise in Common House Sharon Villines, October 4 2003
- Re: Yelling and running, was Re: [C-L]_Noise in Common House Elizabeth Stevenson, October 4 2003
- Re: Yelling and running, was Re: [C-L]_Noise in Common House Elaine, October 4 2003
- Re: Yelling and running, was Re: [C-L]_Noise in Common House John Ullman, October 4 2003
- Re: Yelling and running, was Re: [C-L]_Noise in Common House Elaine, October 4 2003
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Re: Noise in Common House Sharon Villines, October 3 2003
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