Re: Private vs. Public space, next to back door
From: Rob Sandelin (
Date: Wed, 7 Jul 2004 08:28:34 -0700 (PDT)
There are sometimes control issues which underlay simple decisions. One of the difficulties in cooperative living is ferreting out the underlaying issues which come attached to decisions. There is also a interesting manifestation of control which shows up around aesthetics. Sometimes people want things to look a certain way and they are very attached to that, in fact they are convinced internally that their way is the right way. This is often deep person value stuff, often very concealed and comes from personal life history. For example, two people, one is very tidy and neat in their personal space, everything is well organized. The other is not very tidy and very disorganized. Neither is comfortable in the others space, both beleive that "my way of living" is the best way and that the other has a problem. This kind of thing manifests itself unto community aesthetics. It can become an underlaying conflict in the common areas.

Having said all that, I suggest offering a trail period to the bunny location. Try it out and then have the critics lead an honest evalutation of the situation. Did whatever they fear actually happen? You can not really understand things without having some experience. Whether the bunny location works or not really needs to be experienced. You can always move it back or somewhere else if indeed the anticipated problems actually exist. These are the kinds of decisions that are EASILY undone, and thus make great trial period decisions. There will be many more.

Rob Sandelin
Sharingwood Cohousing
C0-Owner of a bunny

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