|RE: rules for participation||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Alexander Robin A (alexande.robiuwlax.edu)|
|Date: Thu, 17 Mar 2005 14:02:03 -0800 (PST)|
A wonderful point! There are so many ways to contribute and make a group great. That's the problem I see with the cohousings that try to "enforce" a certain amount of contribution by logging hours, using checklists, etc. There's no way to include all the ways that people contribute, and the list itself becomes limiting. Don't get me wrong - I have my share of times when I grumble about apparent discrepancies in contribution, so it's not like I don't understand the urge to formalize it in some way. It takes some level of trust to take the position that people will contribute to what they value and that each person's gifts are different and potentially very valuable. That said, I agree that not going to meetings and then complaining about the resulting decisions is not cool. Robin Alexander Eon Commons ________________________________ From: Tree Bressen [mailto:tree [at] ic.org] Sent: Thu 3/17/2005 2:51 PM To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org Cc: lbassman [at] alliant.edu Subject: Re: [C-L]_ rules for participation Dear Lynette, I don't know if you are still seeking responses to this message from over a month ago, but in addition to what Rob said about how realistically people do not all contribute at the same level, i would add the following: Not everyone is into meetings, but that doesn't mean they wouldn't be wonderful contributors in other ways. If they help organize potlucks or do childcare or act as a bridge person among different cliques in the community, if they bring a sense of fun or make casseroles for people who are sick or fix the plumbing at 3am, all of these are important parts of community functioning. Unfortunately there's not as much opportunity for these other gifts to come out when you are not on site together yet, but still even now you are hopefully holding social events and perhaps helping each other out on things, so you may start to get a sense of this. Even though not everyone is into meetings, i think it's important to build a culture that says, "If you want to be a part of this decision, you show up at the meeting, and if you're not there, it's not fair for you to complain afterward about the outcome." I think it is reasonable as a group to say that since community requires participation in order to function, that you expect every member to find ways to plug in . . . and if you see that someone is not fulfilling that, it's probably time to have a conversation with that person to find out where they're at. If it helps, the principles that underlie the participation expectations at my 9-person home community are: 1. Is the basic necessary work to run the place getting done? 2. Is everyone at least contributing some? (In our case the minimum level is attending weekly house meetings, cooking once a week for the group, and doing some household chores.) 3. Is anyone so over-burdened that they are feeling resentful or in danger of burning out? In that case it's time for some of their work to shift to other people. Good luck, --Tree Bressen Walnut St. Co-op http://www.icetree.com/walnut ----------------------------------------------- Tree Bressen 1680 Walnut St. Eugene, OR 97403 (541) 484-1156 tree [at] ic.org http://www.treegroup.info _________________________________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/
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