Re: Values in community, was sexuality | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: ken (gebserspeakeasy.net) | |
Date: Fri, 17 Mar 2006 02:32:06 -0800 (PST) |
Amy Gahran wrote: > This has been a very interesting discussion and I appreciate everyone's > views. > > For me, since my husband and I are polyamorous and since our partners are > integral to our lives to the extent that we consider them family, it would > be an important value to me to be fairly certain that, say, it wouldn't be a > problem for my husband to invite his partner to a community dinner, be seen > with his arm around her, give her a hug and a kiss, etc. I would want her to > feel as welcome by the community on those occasions as family members for > anyone else in the community. > > So I guess, since there's an inevitable dissonance between stated and > unstated community values or norms, and since every community is different, > I would probably want to begin my search for a community in those > communities where poly people already live and are "out" to their neighbors. > Then I'd spend some time talking to the poly folks and others in the > community about their thoughts and feelings on the issue... In addition to > checking out the community's facilities, finances, philosophy, etc., of > course! > > I don't expect everyone in the world to be open-minded about polyamory, but > I think in a situation as interdependent as cohousing that would become a > more important consideration, at least for me. > > Thanks, > > - Amy Gahran Amy, I'd be interested if you find such places. Here in Cleveland there's a handful of us interested in some kind of IC, cohousing being the most popular idea. I set up <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ic-neo/> for discussions, but not a lot of people are making full use of it. Most seem to be just listening to what others have to say. As one characteristic among many, I listed this group in icdb.org as open and welcoming of polyamory and polyfidelity, although this shouldn't be considered our primary reason for our being, but just one aspect. -- "This world ain't big enough for the both of us," said the big noema to the little noema.
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- Re: Values in community, was sexuality ken, March 16 2006
- RE: Values in community, was sexuality Rob Sandelin, March 14 2006
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RE: Values in community, was sexuality Alexander Robin A, March 16 2006
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Re: Values in community, was sexuality Amy Gahran, March 16 2006
- Re: Values in community, was sexuality ken, March 17 2006
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Re: Values in community, was sexuality Amy Gahran, March 16 2006
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