|RE: Kids Vs Elders: Aging In Place||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Fred H Olson (fholsoncohousing.org)|
|Date: Mon, 10 Apr 2006 06:41:15 -0700 (PDT)|
Alexander Robin A <alexande.robi [at] uwlax.edu> is the author of the message below. It was posted by Fred the Cohousing-L list manager <fholson [at] cohousing.org> after deleting much quoted material. -------------------- FORWARDED MESSAGE FOLLOWS -------------------- To clarify, we were not driven out by kids. My wife's illness and problems with our state sponsored health insurance required we move back to our home state, and we were sad to have to leave the cohousing. However, there still were issues unresolved. From several responses on this topic and from my experience there seems to be a generational shift in childrearing philosophy. For me and some others of my aged generation it seems perfectly reasonable to expect kids to behave differently at meals than when they are playing outside. As a kid, when I ate dinner with my family we sat around the table and talked at normal volume. I was not allowed to get up and charge around the house yelling during meals. Even if I had friends over. Now parents seem much more reluctant to put any restrictions on their kids' behavior. They are permitted to make noise and run around during meals and to interrupt a conversation their parents may be having at any time. I ascribe no malice to any of this behavior and it certainly is natural for kids to have a lot of energy and be boisterous. But that does not mean they cannot or should not be taught when that is and when it isn't appropriate. Add to this the usual poor acoustical design of most common houses. (It seems that acoustics is a subject rarely taught to architects - at least that's the impression I get from the results of their work.) For those of us with a hearing problem, common meals become impractical and unenjoyable. I would not be surprised if people are affected by this noise more than they realize - I think it's stressful for everyone. Would be interesting to measure blood pressures before and after a noisy common meal ;) Robin Alexander ________________________________ From: Caren Albercook [mailto:calbercook [at] yahoo.com] Sent: Sat 4/8/2006 11:27 AM To: Cohousing-L Subject: [C-L]_ Kids Vs Elders: Aging In Place Neighbors, I was saddened to hear that anyone would be driven out of cohousing by the needs of the children there, and I'm anxious that it not happen in my community.
RE: Kids Vs Elders: Aging In Place Fred H Olson, April 9 2006
RE: Kids Vs Elders: Aging In Place Rob Sandelin, April 9 2006
- Re: Kids Vs Elders: Aging In Place Sharon Villines, April 9 2006
- RE: Kids Vs Elders: Aging In Place Fred H Olson, April 9 2006
- RE: Kids Vs Elders: Aging In Place Fred H Olson, April 10 2006
- RE: Kids Vs Elders: Aging In Place Rob Sandelin, April 9 2006
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