|Re: off limits to kids?||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Casey Morrigan (cjmorrpacbell.net)|
|Date: Mon, 2 Oct 2006 14:38:40 -0700 (PDT)|
In Two Acre Wood (Sebastopol, California), we have a policy that children under 13 are not allowed to play unsupervised by an adult in the Common House. We didn't always have a policy, but instituted one after children did play there unsupervised with some unpleasant aftereffects (but no injuries). We don't have other off limits policies. We do have some workshop equipment in an open carport that is accessible to all, and a treadmill in the laundry room of the common house. The treadmill needs a code or key (can't remember) to operate and the children don't have it. We also allow children to participate in our general membership meetings only if they have an adult mentor/buddy who has briefed them on how things work. More importantly, we have discovered over the years that we can try things out, such as policies, and change them if they aren't working. Also, many conversations we have had about possible future scenarios have turned out to be fruitless worry. I don't mean that it is meaningless to discuss children's safety and how to maintain expensive equipment. But we so often were posing the wrong question! So much of what happens after move-in can be dealt with then, and doesn't need to be arranged beforehand. Sometimes you can make an agreement to discuss something by a certain time - right before all the workshop equipment is moved in, for example. You really need lots of energy just to get through construction itself. Also, as the children got older, their needs for supervision changed, so that concerns we had before move in were different after we actually got here. I also got to know my neighbors and realized that some could accurately predict what their children would do in a risky situation - for example, that their children really did know how to identify poisonous mushrooms and would stay away from them. It is hard to realize that community property belongs to all, and that all have a say in how it is used. I do find it challenging, being very risk averse myself. It is so different from living on a large property all on your own. Good luck. Let us know what your community ended up deciding. Casey M. Two Acre Wood Sebastopol, California -----Original Message----- From: Becky M. Pulito [mailto:Becky [at] Pulito.us] Sent: Sunday, October 01, 2006 8:24 PM To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org Subject: [C-L]_ off limits to kids? I am having a difficult time finding info in the archives regarding areas off-limits to children. In our community, we are laying down groundwork for living post-move-in (we're pre-construction right now, getting through the red tape). We have come to a hurdle Some members feel children should not be allowed in certain areas without a parent. Some members feel children should be allowed to use certain facilities when their parents agree they are ready, and that a child's readiness should not be dictated by the group or a policy stating an age minimum (like no one under 14 uses the exercise room, for example). For my group, the main areas to consider are the workshop, the exercise room and the pool area, all of which can be hazardous for anyone who is not trained. What about your group? Do you have "policy" on which, if any, areas are off limits to children without supervision? Any insight would be appreciated. Thank you, ~Becky, Camelot Cohousing in Massachussetts _________________________________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/
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