|Re: A Private person in cohousing||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: seniorcohousing (seniorcohousingcox.net)|
|Date: Mon, 6 Nov 2006 09:50:40 -0800 (PST)|
Ouch. I feel the same way. I'm in the middle of forming a group, but I hate hanging out in groups! In other situations where I was what felt like the only introvert in a group of gregarious extroverts, I've had the same problem. Here's how I mitigated the overstimulation. I emailed everyone I knew (you could quote from the email you sent to us) but concluded with this: "When I'm wearing my privacy hat, please don't take offense, but I don't want you to greet me. My privacy hat is a cartwheel straw hat with a veil." OK, so I'm a drama queen. Maybe a hat with sunglasses would be more, um, discreet. You'll still have people approach you. But if you laugh and point at your privacy hat, they'll soon get the message. Some Not Very Amusing People still insisted on making a big deal of meeting me and pantomiming that they didn't see me. Sigh. But after a while of my not responding to this, they stopped and I was able to move about the community without molestation. And by the way, extroverts, that's what it feels like: molestation. Nina, putting on her privacy hat. ---- Charlene McNamara <charlenem [at] gmail.com> wrote: . It is simply exhausting to me to say hello to each and every > person I ever walk by. Yet there seems to be an expectation that I do > that. I literally have a few neighbors who go out of their way to get > my attention just to wave to me from across the property. I know they > are just being friendly, but there doesn't seem to be an understanding > that some of us simply don't always want to be social.
- Re: A Private person in cohousing, (continued)
Re: A Private person in cohousing Sharon Villines, November 6 2006
- Re: A Private person in cohousing Rob Sandelin, November 6 2006
Re: A Private person in cohousing Carol R., November 6 2006
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- Re: A Private person in cohousing seniorcohousing, November 6 2006
- Re: A Private person in cohousing Saoirse Charis-Graves, November 6 2006
- Re: A Private person in cohousing Sharon Villines, November 6 2006
- Re: a private person in cohousing Lynn Nadeau, November 6 2006
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