|Re: A Private person in cohousing||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Rob Sandelin (floriferousmsn.com)|
|Date: Mon, 6 Nov 2006 11:10:29 -0800 (PST)|
Somewhere once upon a time I stumbled across a sociability index test, sort of like the Myers-briggs only it evaluated your interest in being social. In my dim memory of it the descriptions were interesting and the point of bringing it up here is that there is sort of a sociability scale involved in choosing to live in a community context. There are people who want a high amount of social contact and people who want less. Within that range there might be folks that enjoy large social contexts, and folks who want smaller contexts. The folks that enjoy social contact in smaller contexts will show up for small group events and tend to avoid or leave large group events early. It is very useful to understand your social index in order to create the social context that works best for you, and it is, in my opinion, each individuals self work to create the environment that they thrive in. So if you are small social group person, you can invite folks over for private dinners, conversations, whatever and be clear that your needs are different and can be met. If you are very low on the social index, and want almost no social contact, then living in a social community is not a good choice. This can be the case with couples, where one is highly social and the other has a low social index, and so the high social partner goes to the large meetings, the parties, etc, the other partner works in small groups, etc. This is usually OK and can work out fine. Cohousing tends to attract high social index people, and so there will be lots of big social things, parties, community dinners, etc. If you are clear about your needs with yourself, and with your neighbors, you can find a niche that will fit you. Rob Sandelin (A small group person) Sharingwood Cohousing Naturalist, Writer The Environmental Science School http://www.nonprofitpages.com/nica/SVE.htm ><((((º>`·..·`·..·`·...><((((º>...·`·..·`·...><((((º>.·`·..·`·...><((((º>.·` ·..·`·...><((((º>·.. ><((((º> ·`·..·`·...·..·`><((((º>.·`·..·`·...><((((º>.·`·..·`·...><((((º>..·`·..·`·.. .><((((º>·.. ·`·..·`·....·`·..·`·...><((((º> -- No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.1.409 / Virus Database: 268.13.29/520 - Release Date: 11/6/2006
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