Re: Childrens behavior at community dinner | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Dahako (Dahakoaol.com) | |
Date: Mon, 13 Nov 2006 17:26:48 -0800 (PST) |
Hi - I'm a parent who cannot stand din during dinner (partly because I already have some hearing loss), so I am often the person who gets up and firmly escorts loud children into the kids room or outside, and closes the door behind them. I tell the little ones that we don't run or yell in the dining room during common meals. I encourage the older kids to set a good example, which is slowly taking hold so the older kids are starting to help the younger ones. I started doing this during development. None of the other parents have ever told me to stop, some have thanked me, and some have asked me to try other words or suggested tactics. During the past year (our second since move-in), some of the non-parents have started regularly talking to the noisy kids and helping them find better ways to act during common meals. Most of the kids are taking this really well. Also, on their own, the kids (ages about 2-12) started sitting separately from the adults in a far corner of the dining room during meals. I talked to them early on and worked out an agreement that I would support them keeping the kids table if they supported my ability to hear conversations during meals. They don't always remember, but most of time our deal holds. They eat pretty quickly and go off to the kids room (which has a separate door to get outside, plus plate glass windows between it and the dining space. Oddly enough, the 15 year old usually prefers to sit with the adults (not her parents!!!) than with the kids. Jessie Handforth Kome Eastern Village Cohousing Silver Spring, Maryland "Where, for the first time, my 12-year-old son made a hot dish (mac and cheese) for the Monday potluck, all by himself! No grown-ups in the kitchen at all. A big cohousing moment."
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Re: Childrens behavior at community dinner Dahako, November 13 2006
- Re: Childrens behavior at community dinner James Kacki, November 13 2006
- Re: Childrens behavior at community dinner vicky wason, November 14 2006
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