Re: screening new residents
From: byron patterson (byronpattersongmail.com)
Date: Sun, 28 Jan 2007 17:42:14 -0800 (PST)
On  1/28/07, Byron Patterson^ byronpatterson [at] gmail.com> wrote:

I share Lou's veiw on screening potential cohousing members. A community
should be careful of  social blocking. The communities blocking can result
limitations, but financial concerns should be realized for viable devlopment
of the community.


On 1/27/07, LouHarr [at] aol.com <LouHarr [at] aol.com> wrote:

from TAW, in Sebastopol, Ca
60 miles N of SF/Oakland

Coho-L,

Screening as you grow?

  There is another DOWNSIDE for active  pre-screening for members style.
  By being based on fear of the wrong people,  it pulls in all the other
attributes that go with fear. Such as: looking for  flaws,
emphasizing  them,
gathering evidence, gossip, gathering allies etc.  This can color a groups
perspective very readily.
Being verbal about financial needs of the group  early on really helps
To be a happy group, an open, generous, friendly, clear  tone will be
needed again and again to help you keep going through it  all.
All the advice you have received: "present who you are  etc" will work
,and
helps to build community as you go along.
There may be behavioral "limits" that you will  find.From my perspective
there is no need to be mute about discomforts that  arise and are part of
gaining Clarity.

Good Luck and good times to you.   Louise  Harris
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