Re: Looking for advice about enhancing our Friends policy
From: Rob Sandelin (
Date: Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:35:42 -0800 (PST)
Jonnie, a member of a forming group searching for a site asked about
non-member friends and how or whether to maintain those relationships.

The point of cohousing is to enhance and raise a commitment to personal
relationships with your neighbors. If nothing else, having some kind of
regular social gathering, maybe a monthly potluck, is a way to practice what
you will hopefully someday be doing as neighbors. This sort of social dinner
is a much better way than meetings to introduce people to the concept of
community life, and so such dinners can also be recruiting opportunities. In
fact my recommendation is to have a first contact meeting be some kind of
fun, social event, rather than a business meeting. I have heard lots of
stories about people who attend one meeting, and think....THIS is what
community is about?  And never returned, nor never really get the social
connection piece.

I met a group of former cohousing folks once who had twice a month
gatherings long after their cohousing notions faded. They liked each other
and had a nice social community and as far as I know, are still hanging out,
and have never built a community, although a few of them did move into
houses closer to each other which had bigger space for hosting their former
cohousing dream friends.

Rob Sandelin
Sharingwood, Snohomish County, WA

Results generated by Tiger Technologies Web hosting using MHonArc.