Re: when all our men are dead and gone
From: melanie griffin (melgrifgmail.com)
Date: Mon, 11 Feb 2008 11:58:34 -0800 (PST)
I hope nobody meant to bash men. I hope you'll agree that supporting women
is not the same thing. I would love to have diversity of all kinds in
cohousing; it's just that the field seems for some reason to attract more
women, and in the case of our group, more people between 50 and 70. The
question for some is whether having a skewed demographic is fatal to
cohousing, and I don't think it is.

Melanie


On Mon, Feb 11, 2008 at 10:37 AM, Tom Hammer <thammer302 [at] yahoo.com> wrote:

>
> This post sounds like male-bashing to me, in spite of the smiley face,
> and  I don't think it's appropriate for this list.
>
> How would it feel if the genders were reversed, or it were an
> ethnicity or race instead of men whose lack were being celebrated? As
> a male who does everything I possibly can to support women, I get very
> tired of all the male bashing jokes or references to males as
> "testosterone driven", etc.  We men are naturally sensitive, caring,
> loving, committed to the environment, intelligent, and nurturing.
> Those of us who are not have been taught by our culture to be otherwise.
>
> Personally, I want a cohousing community with diversity, and a lack of
> men or women would start me on a path of recruiting more of that gender.
>
> Tom Hammer
> Concord Ecovillage
> Chester County, PA
>
> If you want peace, work for justice.
>
> On Feb 11, 2008, at 6:16 AM, cohousing-l-request [at] cohousing.org wrote:
> >
> > Message: 1
> > Date: Sun, 10 Feb 2008 21:16:35 -0700
> > From: Christine Johnson <manzjohnson [at] netzero.net>
> > Subject: [C-L]_ when all our men are dead and gone
> > To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
> > Message-ID: <1CFBA58B-E0C5-4994-B8F3-F392D5AF865C [at] netzero.net>
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> >
> > Yusuf Pisa wrote:  "While demographics for each community is
> > different, a large number of cohousing communties suffer from the
> > "too many single old women" problem.
> >
> > Problem: "too many single old women"  ?  Can you have TOO many old
> > women ?
> >
> > A bunch of us were sitting around talking about getting the heavy
> > lifting done around here, what are are going to do when all our men
> > are dead and gone?  One of us remarked that it won't be long before
> > the community itself is in the majority, old women. "Wow, that sounds
> > fabulous" said a 30 something young woman.   Personally, I agree -- I
> > don't think it sounds half bad :-).
> >
> > Christine Johnson
> > Stone Curves Cohousing
> > Tucson, AZ
> >
> >
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