Re: Work or Pay Systems
From: Sharon Villines (
Date: Tue, 22 Jul 2008 18:49:35 -0700 (PDT)

On Jul 22, 2008, at 9:09 PM, Kay Wilson Fisk wrote:

A per member fee would hardly be fair to a household of 2-3 adults compared
to a per household fee, and visa versa.

Think of it this way: You can't build a relationship with a household. You build relationships with individuals. People share work as individuals. This attitude allows much more flexibility and deeper relationships than thinking of households.

To have one member doing the work of three is also not a good feeling for the one.

In the fifties and even in to the sixties, everyone was supposed to be a couple. If you weren't a couple you were a social misfit, particularly if you were a woman.

The couples mentality was so strong that couples would come to pot luck dinners and bring one dish to serve 8, and a single person would bring one dish to serve 8. A couple came to paid dinners for the same price that a single person paid. Once at a grab bag gift party a couple brought one gift and went away with two.

The household mentality is very similar to this. Households in ownership situations, which cohousing is, are generally composed of people in primary relationships. This can become very exclusive, and "couples" often relate to "couples."

The emphasis on individual members creates more open and balanced relationships and "definitions" of people.

Sharon Villines
Takoma Village Cohousing,Washington DC

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